Hi there, lovely people,
I’ve finally found 5 minutes to share my positive thought for this week! This weekend has been non-stop but very fun and productive, leaving little time for much else!
This week, I’m sharing a different kind of post – this one really resonated with me:
What this means to me:
For those of you that know me a little, you will know my marriage broke down in 2013. By 2015 I was officially divorced. In the intervening period, I took some time to reflect on my break up and reconnected with friends, family and most importantly, myself. It was a long, tough, but ultimately rewarding journey. It’s amazing how easily you can lose your sense of self when you’re trying to make a relationship work!
After the divorce was finalised, 2015 was the first year I tried to date again. It was an interesting experience – the last time I had dated anyone was in my mid-twenties! A lot had changed in the time I was married, there were so many new ways to meet people! I used online sites and apps, chatted to and met a few men but no one quite fit. Until I started chatting with one particular guy in the Summer of that year, who I really clicked with…. or so I thought. Funnily enough, I then met another guy in the Autumn as well who I also thought I clicked with!
Over the last 2 years, I have gotten to know both these men, but neither one has actively tried to be with me. They say all the right things and tell me how much they like me and find me attractive, sexy etc. but nothing more has come from either ‘relationship’. This has left me rather disillusioned and cynical!
Slowly but surely, I’ve distanced myself from both of them, and men in general! It wasn’t that hard as neither of them is reliable at getting in touch unless they want something! But, there are certain guys in my life who have proven over time that not only do they think I’m beautiful on the outside but also on the inside. They are just good friends but always show they care. One of them contacted me this week to see how I was, at a time I was feeling a little blue and frustrated. After speaking to him, I realised the truth of the quote above.
People are often drawn to others because of their physical beauty, before falling for personality too (if they do). Over the last couple of years, I’ve experienced this many times and whilst it’s always flattering to be found attractive, it’s far more fulfilling to be seen as an amazing person that people want to be around and have in their lives. People that take the time to find the beauty within you. My friend reminded me of that just by getting in touch and giving me a positive boost.
And so I’m passing the same message to all of you! Remember who really shows you that you’re beautiful, important and worth knowing – enjoy flattery and the attention of others but don’t let it define you or make you forget those people who will truly be there for you and appreciate you for everything you are! They’re the ones to treasure.
Enjoy what’s left of the weekend and catch up soon!